Choosing between an adult parent and children’s activities is something nearly 47% of American adults in their 40s and 50s grapple with as a part of the Sandwich Generation. These adults, like John, are caught in the middle, caring for an aging parent and raising a young child or financially supporting a grown child. John and his wife, Beth, are a part of that number.
“I have learned to live in the moment and not worry about the next thing, otherwise, it would feel overwhelming,” John asserts.
Clinton Luehrs, John’s dad, anticipates the day ahead as he prepares for John to pick him up. Most of their time together will be spent traveling between doctor’s appointments. As a former National Guardsman and accountant, a stroke impaired Clinton’s mobility and he needs help to accomplish daily tasks.
For John, balancing family, work, and caregiver responsibilities can be an ongoing challenge. While he finds pleasure at times eating his favorite sandwich – a Cuban – being a part of the sandwich generation sometimes puts a strain on the loving son and doting dad.
On a recent weekday, John started the day with back-to-back meetings, the last one finishing at noon. Eating lunch on the fly, he left (the office or his home office) to pick up his father at the assisted living facility where he lives. The first of two doctor’s appointments were at 12:45 p.m.
“It’s great to have a support system at work and at home,” John said. “Regular exercise also helps me stay physically and mentally strong.”
Caregivers meet emotional, physical, or financial demands while being present for work. When employees carry the weight of caring for their parents and children, they value employers who demonstrate genuine support.
Here are some tips for HR leaders:
- Allow flexible work models
- Take a holistic approach to paid leave, considering all the challenges of employee caregivers
- Encourage employees to take care of their physical and mental health so they can manage everyday stress
- Connect employees with resources or services that will help make their job as a caregiver manageable
While I’m not competing in half marathons like John, I am running again. He’s planning a family vacation to hike the Grand Canyon on his next birthday. And I can’t wait to travel to my favorite city London.
All the support we receive helps us honor our fathers and families. Despite how busy it gets, we wouldn’t have it any other way.
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About Unum Group
Unum Group (NYSE: UNM), an international provider of workplace benefits and services, has been helping workers and their families for 175 years. Through its Unum and Colonial Life brands, the company offers disability, life, accident, critical illness, dental, vision and stop-loss insurance; leave and absence management support and behavioral health services. In 2022, Unum reported revenues of about $12 billion and paid $8 billion in benefits. The Fortune 500 company is one of the 2023 World’s Most Ethical Companies, recognized by Ethisphere®.